“[T]rue belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” – Brene Brown

It’s time to truly love, trust, respect and be kind to ourselves.

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Journeying on

Yesterday I started the last of the core coaching training courses.  Two more days and this part of the journey will be over.  I feel sad about the prospect of saying goodbye to my amazing fast-track coaching buddies.  I hope we can go on to build greater bonds beyond the training centre walls.  What a wonderful group of people they are.  Being vulnerable, being open and so authentically themselves in a huge and inspirational way.  Thank you one and all.

I also feel a sense of anticipation about where the journey will lead me next.  Or, more accurately, where I am going to lead myself.  This course seems to have opened a box of interesting things to explore, and that exploration has meant starting a process of letting go and taking back control in equal measure.  Time to let go of all the constraints holding me back, and my own preconceptions and judgements, all of which, mysteriously, have been preventing me from being the greatest version of myself.  And time now to take back control of the messy stuff, the busyness and the distractions that have been too easy to use as excuses for not making time to “be”.  The messy stuff I’ve swept under the carpet believing I had this stuff under control.  I did.  And I didn’t.  And now I can start to let it all go and control what matters.

It is time to find space again.  To find it, to embody it and to be it.  In the space is freedom, contentment and joy.  Space is beautiful.  From space comes love, warmth and wisdom. And who doesn’t want a bit more of that?

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What makes a great human being 

What makes a great human being?  Is it what we do, how people judge or perceive us, how we behave, what we wear?  Here are just some of the amazing and special things that make us human beings:

Being.  We are not human doings.  Sometimes it is ok just to exist.

Mess.  We are not “sorted”.  We are messy, we are complex, we are surprising.  We can be up and we can be down.  It is OK.  It is OK not to know.

Capability.  We are capable and  resourceful.  Each of us, in our own way, is so very capable.  And capable of so much more than we give ourselves credit for.  There is so much more to find and explore.  Sometimes we just need people to cheer us on and give us pushes in the right direction.  We can do the rest.

Creative.  We are so creative.  We make music. We write stories. We solve problems.  We make machines work.  We create code.  We create works of art.

We dream.  We hope.  We love.

We are amazing.  We are inspiring.  We can change anything and everything.  Our limits are our own.  Go ahead, step out, be amazing.

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A new journey

Good stories are all about journeys.  Some are  literal, travelogues from intrepid backpackers or sightseers, others more of the spiritual kind.  Most are just about the ups and downs of life, the greatest journey of them all.

The last eighteen months have been one amazing, scary and fun journey through my life.  I’ve taken courses in subjects I never even knew I could explore, stage roles I never imagined I could inhabit, playing sports I’d never considered trying, dreaming bigger than I’ve ever dreamed before,  hitting lifetime goals and meeting more amazing people than I’ve ever met in such a short space of time.  Just your average eighteen months.  Quiet, boringly average.  Not in the least bit inspiring when I look back and think, “Wow!  Did I manage to do ALL of that?”

My big, life journey took another step forward today as I took the first steps towards the  fulfilment of a long-held, yet little-actioned dream, training to become a coach.  A day spent in a little training suite in London, sharing and learning with a wonderful bunch of people who, like me, want to do something more with their one and only precious life.  A day spent bouncing around with enthusiasm.  A day spent smiling and feeling the buzz of resonation everywhere.  A day spent knowing that even if it doesn’t work out, the time has not been wasted.  And, if it does, the world is suddenly a much bigger and more exciting place to be.  

You see those stars?  They are mine.  Race you.

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Time flies

I haven’t thought about blogging since that last post in September.  Not even once.  Life has rather taken over.  I suppose I finally reached a place where I didn’t need to share those internal thoughts.  But now the creative need is returning.  Thoughts are a-bubbling (although that might have more to do with my role as a witch in a local production of the play “Wyrd Sisters”).

Watch this space.  New projects might appear.  With the emphasis on might.  There are no promises here.

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Autumn leaves

Today’s treat: seeing the autumn leaves catch the wind and twirl in perfect circles like a mini tornado of orange. Beautiful.

This perfection was topped up by the sun peaking through the morning mist.

Happy Thursday!

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Beautiful sights of the morning

Beautiful things I have seen this morning:

A flock of birds wheeling overhead;
A spider in her web, sparkling with fresh morning dew;
The flock of sheep munching breakfast;
My favourite pink jacket;
My beautiful old dog;
The sun peaking through the morning sea mist;
Two crows sitting on a lamppost;
Marigolds and fuschias brightening up the gardens;
Patches of brilliant blue sky poking through;
Two wood pigeons flying together through life;
Breakfast ;-)

Not bad in just an hour or so!

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Share Your World 2013 – Week 20

Before I disappear off the planet all over again, I thought I would get in quick with my answers to Week 20 of Cee’s continuing challenge.  At least I might not forget to complete it if I do it straight away.

Do you like winter, or not, and why?  No, as a general rule.  I dislike wet, damp weather…a lot…and we get a lot of that in the UK in winter.  And I hate the dark evenings and ridiculously dark “it must still be night” mornings.  But, I love the snow, I love Christmas and I love being wrapped up warm against the cold either taking a brisk walk or curled up in front of the fire.

Are you a listener or talker?  Talker.  I can’t even argue myself out of that one and, if I did, I guess I would be talking!

What is your favorite juice or fruit drink?  Natural cloudy apple juice or coconut water.

What do you have to be so happy about?  Everything!  I am alive, I am fit and healthy (at long last – yay!), I love all the stuff I do, or am working on new plans to fix the stuff I don’t, I have a great family and wonderful friends.  I am very, very lucky and want to make sure I remember that as often as possible.  Life is very good.

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Share Your World 2013 – Week 17, 18 & 19

I am now so many weeks behind on this that I was all for giving up.  But I am not a quitter, well not unless I am really, really bored, and I quite like sharing my world regardless of whether the world wants to know anything about me or not.

And so it was that this writer came to include more than one week in one post.  I know, cheeky of me, isn’t it?

Week 17

When writing by hand do you prefer to use a pencil or pen?  Pen, preferably not black.

Would you rather be given $10,000 for your own use or $100,000 to give anonymously to strangers?  $100k to give away.  How much fun would it be to just be able to give away money without people knowing you gave it?  I would love to do that.

Would you rather take pictures or be in pictures?  Both, it depends on the circumstances.  I love taking photos but never seem to do it enough.

As a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?  Anything and everything, I still don’t know what I want to be.  I had everything: singer, writer, teacher, actress, radio presenter, fireman, radio-operator, librarian, lawyer, Tour de France yellow jersey winner.  The list is pretty endless.  I even wanted to be a tax lawyer for a while thanks to John Grisham’s novel, The Firm.  Thanks for that Mr Grisham.

Week 18

What is your favourite animal?  A dog.  Aside from household pets, I’d go for a pig because they are funny, cuddly (apart from the mud) and super clever.

What is your favourite comfort snack food?  Chocolate of any kind, goats cheese, olives or rolls of parma ham.

What subject would you like to study in depth, if given the time to do so?  Acting, drama and theatre – I’m taking that all as one.

What object do you always have with you when travelling and why?  I don’t.  I like to travel light!  Probably a phrase book of some kind if I’m abroad, I like to be able to speak a little bit of local lingo.

Week 19

On a vacation what you would require in any place that you would stay?  Air-conditioning in a hot country and a good, tasty breakfast.  Most of all, peace and quiet when I want to sleep!

If you were, or are, a writer do you prefer writing short stories, poems or novels?  Short stories and novels.

What’s your favourite song of the moment?  Let Me Be Your Star (from the TV series Smash) and anything from the musical Soho Cinders (especially Let Him Go and Who’s That Boy – in part because these are new songs to me whereas I already know much of the rest of this great cast album)

If you were to buy a new house/apartment what is the top items on your wish list?  It has to be quirky.  No classic British three-bed semi-detached for me.  I like having stairs and a hallway.  Light and airy with a nice view of countryside and/or sea or water (like a lake or a river).  It needs to be decorated in bright, but tasteful, colours and already be almost exactly the way I want it as I’ll never have time to get round to decorating it to look like I’d like!  Not much really…

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Share Your World 2013 – Week 16

I love this weeks questions.  They are so me.  Or I am so them.  Whichever way you look at it I’ve really enjoyed answering these.  They have all come quite naturally to me.   Thank you, Cee!

Are you awake before dawn?  Or are you awake before noon?  Never before dawn (unless I’m still up from the night before and I blame that entirely on after-show parties).

Are you usually late, early, or right on time?  Late.  I used to be early or on time but got so fed up of always waiting around for other people to turn up that I started trying to fit in one too many things before I left, and then always ended up late.  I hate being late for the theatre, a flight or most things; the current mission is to get back to my old habits.

For your potato chips do you prefer ridged or flat ones?  Flat, salt and vinegar crisps for me please.

If you could inherit a vacation home anywhere in the world in which you could spend two months a year, where would it be?  Only one?  Can I have an apartment in New York City overlooking Central Park, an apartment in Rome (anywhere actually) and a house in Bali?

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